Attainment of self-control is a skill that develops with age. Toddlers often behave without regard for consequences, while adults are generally more conscious of the impact of their actions. Even so, there are times when the best of us lose control. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to regain self-control.
Meditate regularly to clear your mind of confusion. A calm mind is more capable of maintaining self-control under stressful circumstances than a disorganized mind.
Write down specific goals for yourself, such as refraining from cursing while driving. List the steps you'll take to meet those goals, such as listening to calm music, leaving for destinations early or substituting acceptable language when frustrated.
Review your goals weekly to determine your progress. Once you've met goals in one area, set new goals at a higher level.Keep a journal of your daily activities. Notice events that precede a decline in self-control. Try to avoid these circumstances if possible. Increase participation in activities that make you happy.
Practice positive self-talk techniques. Instead of thinking,"I'm already late, so there's no point in trying anymore." think, "This is late, but I'm getting it done and following through with a commitment."
Slow your response time by taking several deep, cleansing breaths before reacting. Develop a thoughtful look for these moments, during which you take a mental vacation.
Find an acceptable outlet for stress. Sports and other high energy activities may help. Also, consider stress-reducing activities, such as yoga.Try to counter every negative thought with three positive thoughts.
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